Not everyone wants to grow

not everyone wants to grow

I remember sitting with a friend talking about a conflict with someone in my life and about how I wanted to resolve it. My relationship with this person, I explained, needed to evolve; we needed to grow. I was trying to come up with ways to convince the other person of this. My friend listened, sipping her coffee, nodding along. Then she said, “Not everyone wants to grow, you know.”

I sat back, completely confused. What did she mean people don’t want to grow? Of course people want to grow! Of course people want to become better people and build better relationships! And if they don’t want to, they should! And I would be the one