The Myth of Closure

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Wouldn’t it be great if we could neatly close out chapters in our lives before moving onto the next one? You know, resolve all relationship issues and put lingering conflicts with family to rest and take a nice predictable staircase up to enlightenment? Unfortunately life doesn’t work like that especially because our ideas about closure […]

The Betrayal of Change

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We don’t live in a vacuum. Our choices impact the people we love and the people we live with just as their choices impact us.

When Your Reality is Wrong

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Awhile back I was talking to someone who was telling me about her exercise-induced asthma. She described the feeling of her chest tightening up and her breath cutting off when she ran without her inhaler and that for a long time she thought that’s just how exercise is. It wasn’t until she was talking to […]

To Heck with Self Improvement

Growth assumes that change is natural and built into us; improvement has the sound of failure, like not good enough.

My Inner Critic

My original plan was to write You Are Not Your Mother as a book and last year I committed to it by going to a writing retreat led by Jen Louden (author of The Woman’s Comfort Book and most recently, Why Bother). The retreat was fantastic, Jen is incandescent and I learned a lot (plus […]