When the news is overwhelming
When I brought my newborn baby son home from the hospital we had a broken TV; it took at least 30 minutes to warm up. I was sleeping out on the futon in the living room of our tiny one bedroom apartment and I was leaving the television on all night, muted, so that when the […]
The Myth of Closure
Wouldn’t it be great if we could neatly close out chapters in our lives before moving onto the next one? You know, resolve all relationship issues and put lingering conflicts with family to rest and take a nice predictable staircase up to enlightenment? Unfortunately life doesn’t work like that especially because our ideas about closure […]
Being Healthy in Unhealthy Relationships
It’s absolutely possible to continue to have relationships with dysfunctional family members. Absolutely. But it’s tricky.
Before and After Pics are a Violence Against the Self
Before and After is a lie. We are always changing and we are not inadequate until we’ve learned adequacy.
The Betrayal of Change
We don’t live in a vacuum. Our choices impact the people we love and the people we live with just as their choices impact us.
When Your Reality is Wrong
Awhile back I was talking to someone who was telling me about her exercise-induced asthma. She described the feeling of her chest tightening up and her breath cutting off when she ran without her inhaler and that for a long time she thought that’s just how exercise is. It wasn’t until she was talking to […]
Building Your Own Resiliency
Because resiliency is about skills you can always get stronger and better at bouncing back from tough situations.