The Myth of Closure

Wouldn’t it be great if we could neatly close out chapters in our lives before moving onto the next one? You know, resolve all relationship issues and put lingering conflicts with family to rest and take a nice predictable staircase up to enlightenment? Unfortunately life doesn’t work like that especially because our ideas about closure […]

The Betrayal of Change

We don’t live in a vacuum. Our choices impact the people we love and the people we live with just as their choices impact us.

When Your Reality is Wrong

Awhile back I was talking to someone who was telling me about her exercise-induced asthma. She described the feeling of her chest tightening up and her breath cutting off when she ran without her inhaler and that for a long time she thought that’s just how exercise is. It wasn’t until she was talking to […]

To Heck with Self Improvement

Growth assumes that change is natural and built into us; improvement has the sound of failure, like not good enough.

Lost in Space

I invite you to consider what family constructs you’d like to set down. What has you tied to the earth that you no longer need?

My Inner Critic

My original plan was to write You Are Not Your Mother as a book and last year I committed to it by going to a writing retreat led by Jen Louden (author of The Woman’s Comfort Book and most recently, Why Bother). The retreat was fantastic, Jen is incandescent and I learned a lot (plus […]

Just for Today

There’s a line from the AA poem Just For Today that says: “Just for today I will try to live through this day only, not tackling all of my problems at once. I can do something at this moment that would discourage me if I had to continue it for a lifetime.” I use this line a […]

Learning from Resistance

This week I’ve been dealing with some fretful stuff. We’re thinking about making some big practical changes in our life that start with putting our house on the market. We’ve lived here for fourteen plus years now and there’s a lot to do to make that happen; I’ve been feeling overwhelmed practically and emotionally. I’m […]